Being health conscious is a good thing. Becoming obsessed with a specific diet and the rules it enforces may have a deeper impact on our psychological and social well being. I listened to a podcast this morning where a woman described her fear of food. She was worried about what too much kale would do to her and also worried about what too little would. She suffered from orthorexia.
When we start to eat strictly for nutrients and worry excessively about what these will do or not do for us, we lose the connection and pleasure which revolves around food. And let's not confuse the pleasure of preparing a good meal that's also nutritious with pounding away a half dozen donuts. After all, both can bring pleasure.
For thousands of years people have gathered around to enjoy and share food. Food is something that unites families and friends. One thing I hope my children will experience is the appreciation for preparing and enjoying real food without getting too caught up in the disturbing relationship some people have with food (more on this another time...as a relationship with food is not with food but with feelings/thoughts)
Despite the fact that I eat according to what feels good for my gut, abstaining from all gluten and dairy and only eating properly prepared grains, and not too often, the rest of my family does not. I don't deprive them of these things. I want them to be able to make decisions for themselves. My children eat everything I cook and make sure to have plenty of options for them. I'm realistic about the world we live in and know that they're going make choices for themselves one day. What I do control is the amount of packaged food that enters my house, which is very minimal.
All I can hope for is to model cooking and eating real food and worry less about this diet or that diet.